Thursday, August 14, 2014

When You Don't Seem to Fit In

Since graduating from college, I've felt less and less like I've had a real "comfort zone" when it comes to relationships. I had gotten so used to being around people who were just like me -- same age, same life stage, same family background, same faith...we were all just so alike. Now its rare for me to meet even one person who is remotely similar to me, and a group of 3, 5, 10 or more people like that is just unheard of these days.

Sometimes I feel like I'm still searching for that group where I really just "fit."And as time goes by, I'm realizing that that group probably doesn't exist, at least right now. And yeah, sometimes it can be uncomfortable for me when I reveal to a group of women that I'm hanging out with my graduation year and they suddenly realize how much younger I am than they are...or if I mention to a group of my coworkers that I "go to church" and the judgmental glances start happening.

I'm just a unique life stage -- I don't really fit in with the young families because I don't have kids, I don't fit in with the couples without kids because I'm so young, I don't fit in with the young couples my age because we're married and have a house, I don't fit in with coworkers because I have a husband and go to church...I could go on and on.

But what I'm learning is that a lot of that stuff really doesn't matter. "Fitting in" doesn't mean that you have to be exactly like the people you're hanging out with. It just means friendship, common interests  and learning to be comfortable around people who are different from yourself.

Writing this out, yeah, it sounds obvious. But still I struggle with wanting to find people just like me, rather than embracing and learning from people who are different from me. And I'm working on that. I want to to be thankful for and really invest in and embrace the people who are in my life here and now. I am so blessed. I just need to look right in front of me.

Monday, July 14, 2014

Fellowship & Community

Well hello there! 

It's been a while. As for my life, lab work has been busy -- I've been getting in early! And summer has been sweet and wonderful! 

Jordan and I started training for a half-marathon which has actually been pretty fun. Lots of early mornings and treacherously long run weekends. But its good and a fun bonding experience for us. 

Earlier this month, we hosted a 4th of July party at our house which was lots of fun. We love being able to facilitate fellowship and connections between people in our church and community. It was actually pretty funny, because a year ago, we wanted to throw a 4th party but we seriously didn't have many friends yet, even though we had been in Bloomington almost a year already. 

It was pretty slow for us to really get connected because people our age in a college town are super transient, many of them in 2-year masters programs or finishing up longer degree programs. I think because of that, I've been pretty passionate about the importance of helping people get connected faster. Jordan and I have been pretty intentional about seeking out new young people who visit our join our church and getting them connected to the community. 

Last weekend, Ruth, a great Bloomington friend of mine, and I, were able to plan a social for young people from all different Christian fellowships in Bloomington. Since we live in such a small town, we felt like really being connected to other christians in our community meant reaching outside just the young people in our church. To be honest, I was half expecting 5 - 6 people to show up, including myself, Jordan and Ruth -- but the turnout was fantastic! We had probably about 20 people come and I saw many new faces, from different churches in our community. It was great to meet and connect with such wonderful people. 

It is great to see God's hand in providing fellowship not only for myself but also for others in our community. 

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Friday, June 13, 2014

An Update

Hi Friends --

I feel like I owe you an update on life -- honestly I haven't had too much inspiration to write lately -- which is pretty sad. Usually, I can't write well when I'm mentally preoccupied with too many other things. My current is excuse is my graduate work. In the fall I'll be taking my Prelim exam and defending my thesis proposal -- assuming all goes smoothly, my title will then be  "Ph.D candidate." That being said, I've been pretty busy in lab trying to get as much data as possible and really thinking about my project.

Other than that, we have been traveling basically every other weekend to attend weddings and graduations, which has been great, but really throwing off my weekly groove. This week I didn't unpack until Thursday, even though we got home the previous Sunday evening, and that's definitely against my principals.

Once things cool down, I plan to start posting more regularly...but until then the best I can promise is a sporadic post here and there.

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